Have a Holly, Jolly, Trauma-Informed Holiday

10 Ways Educators Can Support Students Who Have Experienced Trauma During the Holiday Season

The holiday season can be a joyful time for many, but for those who have experienced trauma, it can also bring stress, anxiety, and emotional challenges. Teachers play a critical role in providing a safe and supportive environment for their students. Here are some important things for teachers to keep in mind:

1. Understand Potential Triggers

Holidays can amplify feelings of loss, instability, or unmet expectations, especially for students who have experienced:

• Family separation, divorce, or loss of a loved one.
• Financial insecurity or homelessness.
• Past traumatic events tied to the holiday season.

Recognize that holiday-themed activities, discussions about family traditions, or even festive decorations can inadvertently trigger difficult emotions. Try to provide alternative ways to discuss customs, such as discussing ways other countries celebrate holidays and what those holidays represent in that respective country, religion, etc. 

2. Prioritize a Trauma-Informed Approach

Creating a trauma-sensitive classroom means emphasizing safety, trust, and emotional regulation. Keep these principles in mind:

• Predictability: Maintain routines as much as possible, as predictability can reduce anxiety for students who feel unsafe or uncertain.
• Choice: Offer options in activities so students feel empowered rather than pressured.
• Emotional Safety: Be mindful of language and avoid assumptions about students' family situations or holiday plans.

3. Focus on Inclusivity

Not all students celebrate the same holidays or in the same way. Center classroom activities on universal values like gratitude, kindness, and giving, rather than specific traditions. Examples include:

• Encouraging students to reflect on their favorite memories from the past year (not limited to holidays).
• Highlighting diverse winter holidays to foster inclusivity and understanding.

4. Monitor Emotional Well-Being

Students who have experienced trauma may display heightened emotions, withdrawal, or disruptive behaviors during the holidays. Be attentive to signs of distress, such as:

• Increased irritability, anxiety, or sadness.
• Difficulty concentrating or engaging in class activities.
• Physical complaints like headaches or stomach aches.

When you notice a student struggling, approach them with empathy and offer support. A private check-in can help them feel seen and heard.

5. Offer Flexibility and Grace

The holiday season can be overwhelming, and students may need extra patience and understanding. Consider:

• Flexible Deadlines: Allow students additional time in class to complete assignments if needed.
• Low-Stakes Participation: Avoid forcing students to participate in holiday-themed activities if they seem uncomfortable.
• Alternative Spaces: Create a quiet, safe area in the classroom for students who may need a break. (aka Calming Corner, Regulation Station, etc)

6. Teach and Model Emotional Regulation

For students grappling with strong emotions, modeling and teaching self-regulation techniques can be invaluable:

• Mindfulness Activities: Lead simple breathing exercises, meditation, or grounding techniques to help students manage stress.
• Journaling or Art: Encourage students to express their feelings through creative outlets.
• Classroom Calmness: Maintain a calm demeanor yourself, as students often mirror the emotional tone of their teacher.

7. Avoid Personal Probes

While it’s natural to want to know more about your students, be cautious about asking direct questions about their holiday plans or family life. These questions can unintentionally highlight sensitive issues. Instead:

• Use neutral prompts like, “What are you looking forward to this month?”
• Provide opportunities for voluntary sharing rather than putting students on the spot.

8. Celebrate Small Wins

For students who have been through trauma, even small successes during the holiday season can be significant. Celebrate their efforts, resilience, and growth in ways that are meaningful but not overwhelming. This might include:

• Acknowledging their participation in class.
• Offering encouragement for trying something new or challenging.
• Providing positive reinforcement through private praise or small, thoughtful gestures.

9. Collaborate with Families and Support Staff

Stay connected with families, counselors, and support staff to better understand the needs of students who have experienced trauma. Share observations and strategies that can help create consistency between home and school during this sensitive time.

10. Be Patient with Yourself

Supporting students who have experienced trauma can be emotionally taxing. Remember to take care of yourself during the holiday season, too. Practice self-care, seek support when needed, and recognize that you are making a positive difference, even in small ways.

The holiday season can be a challenging time for students who have experienced trauma, but with sensitivity, flexibility, and a trauma-informed approach, teachers can provide a safe place where students feel valued and supported. By focusing on inclusivity, emotional regulation, and relationship-building, you can help these students navigate the season with a sense of stability.